Phone sex may feel strange and corny at first, but it’s essential to let go of any reservations and give it a try. Phone sex can add excitement and intimacy into long-distance relationships alike; even short distance relationships benefit from adding some spice. If sexy talk seems daunting to both of you just yet, try reading some erotica together or engaging in pre-call activities for starters.Porno gratis
As part of your call, take things at the pace you both feel is appropriate and comfortable for both of you. If this is your first experience with talking dirty over the phone, it can be easy to become bogged down in grammar and lose track of what you wanted to say. To prevent this from happening, focus on using active verbs when discussing what you like to do for your partner – this will not only add more interestingness but will allow their imaginations to visualize what’s being described.
If both partners feel comfortable, discussing specific fantasies and sexual encounters can be an engaging way to open up phone sex. Touch over the phone can also be practiced; for instance, gently caressing one another’s thighs or tapping your rib cage could all count. Mutual masturbation or orgasm over the phone may even prove fruitful in helping both become more at ease when touching themselves in front of each other.
Phone sex allows you to explore various power dynamics. If you tend to play the submissive partner in your relationship, for instance, phone sex can provide an exciting way to switch roles over and become the dominant one; simply using voice control over a phone line can allow you to practice commanding or giving instructions directly over to your partner over their phones – something Michels suggests would make your voice caller’s day!
If your partner is more timid, you could gently introduce phone sex by encouraging them to imagine themselves in another person’s shoes while on the call. Or try engaging in some voyeurism – watching others perform sexual acts – over the phone; CalExotics sexologist Jill McDevitt PhD suggests it as an excellent way to spice up conversations and get them thinking differently about each other than would normally occur.
Final decision on phone sex should rest with both partners involved, yet consent should always be sought first. Even if both of you feel comfortable, don’t do anything that would make the other uncomfortable – and make sure your phone battery is charged! For more information, see our article on getting started with phone sex.