Phone sex can be an easy and fun way to spice up long-distance relationships or simply add sexual excitement in general. According to relationships expert Jordyn Hakes on The Horny Housewife podcast, phone sex “is an effective way of keeping sexual fire burning when physically apart; plus it allows couples to explore sexual fantasies they might otherwise find embarrassing.”
First things first: before engaging in phone sex with your partner, ensure both are enthusiastic about it. “Identify a time and place when both individuals can relax their inhibitions freely,” according to Dr. Brito. You could do anything that gets your mind off mundane thoughts – from lying in bed and browsing the internet all day to having wine, going for a run, or dancing around your bedroom – anything at all will help break through barriers!
Once you are prepared, begin by discussing which sexual activities excite both of you, and whether your partner is open to exploring them over the phone. If both feel comfortable enough with exploring this on their phones, go for it if desired – Dr. Brito advises starting slow before progressing with more intense actions as confidence builds up. telefono erotico
After playing some playful banter with your partner and using active verbs to stimulate their imaginations (suck, twist, stroke, lick thrust caress–the more vivid and descriptive you are the better), Michels recommends asking leading questions like where or how they want you to place your tongue.
To provoke moaning and groaning over the phone, try playing different sexual scenarios–such as being caught masturbating publicly, having sex with a cop, or being found in a compromising situation like being left in the car alone or Costco. Or role-play and imagine them acting like someone they wouldn’t normally do–perhaps being an outlandish nurse or cop for instance!
When both partners are feeling relaxed, try whispering sexual euphemisms into each other’s ears (such as “tight, hard and hot” or “you’re so fucking yummy”) while also exploring various soundscapes–for instance using an echo or voice changer to create a seductive effect.
Play with power dynamics by engaging in an orgasm competition over the phone and ending when both partners feel satisfied–no need to wait until everyone’s breathing returns to normal!
Getting nervous? Check out our beginner’s guide to talking dirty, and keep this in mind: it takes some time for phone sex to feel natural – don’t rush things – be patient as the moment will arrive when you and your partner will be discussing dirty sex regularly!